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Minisode 17 | April 20, 2021

Changing Family Patterns

In this minisode, we talk briefly about recognizing family patterns and setting boundaries to change those patterns.


Welcome to “That’s a Hard No” – the podcast about saying no and setting boundaries so you can become the authentic and empowered you that this world needs.

Reminder: While Sarah is a Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, this podcast is in no way replacement for one-on-one therapy with a mental health professionalIf you are struggling with mental health issues, we welcome you on this journey, but also invite you to seek out professional help.

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Key Takeaways
  • In this minisode, we briefly revisit our conversation with Reanna and Davis Karousis (episode 13) and how they proactively set boundaries in order to change their family’s patterns of behavior. If you missed it, we suggest going back and giving it a listen. You’ll love them.
  • It’s important to recognize that we have all been molded into who we are based on our upbringing and our previous environments and circumstances. But once we’re adults, we do get to choose what we want our lives to look like.
  • There is no manual for setting boundaries. Sometimes it takes trial and error. Sometimes we need to revisit and reinforce boundaries. Sometimes we change our minds. As Reanna said, “it’s not a ‘set it and forget it’ kind of thing”
  • There are certain boundaries that serve certain seasons of our lives. But then it’s okay to go back to the drawing board and re-evaluate them once we find ourselves in different seasons.
  • It’s important to identify what it is that you want, what feels right for you, and then to start having those open conversations and creating boundaries that serve everyone in the relationship. It’s not one-sided. It’s not about shutting someone down or out. We set boundaries because we want to have a healthy dynamic a good relationship. It’s about managing relationships in a healthy way versus people-pleasing and unhealthy behaviors.
  • And finally, if you find yourself stuck, suffocated, or not truly free in your decision-making, that may be a signal that something deeper is involved. We highly recommend seeking therapy with a professional who can help you sort out your feelings and dig deeper and unpack what’s really going on.
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